How Not to Drown in Someone Else's Trouble: Rules for a Heart That Wants to Help Long-Term 💫

A sincere desire to help children and support families in difficult situations is a wonderful impulse. Many start with donations for rehabilitation or urgent aid, but over time they face fatigue. This is normal. Helping is not a sprint but a marathon, and to run it for a long time, you need your own rules. A common mistake is trying to give all your strength at once, as if everything depends on it. In reality, regular donations, even small ones, or stable volunteering bring far more benefit than a one-time emotional impulse. It's important to remember that a charitable organization is a system, and you are part of the support, not its only source. Boundaries are not coldness but a condition for sustainability. For example, you can help a family not only financially but also by passing on needed items, sharing professional skills, or simply spreading information among your acquaintances. The key is balance: allow yourself to empathize, but do not live through someone else's pain as your own. Compare it to an oxygen mask on an airplane — put yours on first, then help others. If you feel drained after reading the news or constant involvement, it's a signal. Take a pause, return to your usual joys. The help will not become less valuable because of this. On the contrary, you will be able to return with renewed strength. Your participation is like a candle that can burn long and steadily, not flare up brightly and go out. Kindness requires not only heart but also wisdom. And when you find your rhythm — be it an automatic monthly transfer or a few hours a month for a useful cause — helping becomes a natural part of life, not a source of anxiety. This way you preserve both your own resources and the ability to be a support for those who truly need it.